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Sat, 30 Mar 2013 20:12:22 -0400

i’m moving and it’s crunch time at school

yep, i’m still alive! yay! but i’m in the middle of moving and it’s crunch time at school (not…

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Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:44:31 -0400

ramblingsfromthelandofcotton: how dare u call me heterophobic, i am 1/64th heterosexual on my...

Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:28:33 -0400

ramblingsfromthelandofcotton:

how dare u call me heterophobic, i am 1/64th heterosexual on my mother’s side

pssst! scb! this cupcake reminds me of you! <3

Mon, 25 Mar 2013 01:25:45 -0400

pssst! scb! this cupcake reminds me of you! <3

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Mon, 25 Mar 2013 01:22:12 -0400

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Mon, 25 Mar 2013 01:21:54 -0400

transaurusrex413: rainbowgenderpunk: transaurusrex413: rainbow...

Mon, 25 Mar 2013 01:19:14 -0400

transaurusrex413:

rainbowgenderpunk:

transaurusrex413:

rainbowgenderpunk:

asgardiancherrypudding:

WHERE IS YOUR GOD NOW, GENDER ROLES?

ZE HATH FORSAKEN YOU!

okay, storytime.

So at grad photos, one of my good friends asked me to help them put on a wig, and brought me into the girl’s washroom to do it. There must have been at least six or seven girls already in there doing makeup, and more going in and out while I was there. Not a SINGLE complaint, everyone was super nice. I come out a few months later (IE last monday), and I go into the girl’s washroom to pee. One student. One complaint. Immediate call down to the office (using male name no less), and ban on using the girl’s washroom. I’m going to the district to fight it, but I honestly don’t see any hope.

holy shit. if i can do anything to help out, just lemme know. i will be right there with you fighting the district, if you want. no way are those fuckers getting away with that shit here.

Samuel’s already making ALL OF THE CALLS trying to fix it.

Personally I’m just going to print off an article about the bill to get gender identity in the charter of rights, throw a positit on there saying “tick tock”, and casually leave it on my principal’s desk. >:3

yay for samuel! he’s kinda a super hero. <3 also, you are casually awesome. and by “casually,” i mean you’re fucking awesome.

If a Trans* Person Asks You to Use Certain Pronouns

Mon, 25 Mar 2013 01:16:08 -0400

biyuti:

tchy:

Do it. Just fucking do it. It doesn’t matter what we look like, what our mannerisms are like, whether we’re out or not in separare spheres of our life, how long you’ve known us, whether you still think of us as our assigned sex, anything. If you respect us as people, you will use the pronouns we ask you for. If you don’t, we will be forced to conclude that you don’t respect us.

A lot of cis people seem fond of saying that pronouns are “just words” and that if they mess them up repeatedly it shouldn’t be a big deal because they still respect us and it’s just “hard for them to remember.” No. That won’t fly. It may be just a little word to you, but here’s what it means to a trans* person when someone who claims to care for them repeatedly messes up their pronouns with no sign of improvement:

You don’t care about me enough to ensure my happiness and mental well-being by doing this relatively minor thing I’ve asked for; how can I count on you to do major things, like defend me from an attacker or fight for my medical rights, when I need them?

You still think of me as my assigned sex and don’t believe what I have to say about my own identity; you don’t respect my ability to self-determine.

Your freedom to avoid things that inconvenience you is more important to you than my right to be respected and feel safe.

Basically, someone repeatedly messing up our pronouns for months at a time and consistently brushing it off as a “mistake” that we shouldn’t be angry about because it wasn’t an aggressive act of deliberate misgendering—that’s the biggest, clearest sign we’ve got that someone who claims to be in our camp is actually not trustworthy.

Let me repeat that: if you keep making this “little mistake” and brushing it off when we get upset, we will be forced to conclude that deep down, you don’t actually care about our happiness, mental well-being, safety, or self-determination.

It might just be a word to you. But for us, this is a word with some serious weight. And if you truly care about us, you have to take that weight into account and respect it. Because if you don’t, what you’re telling us is that you don’t respect us. It may not sound like that to you, but that’s the subtext we read from it. This is why pronouns matter: it’s not just the literal word, it’s everything that word carries with it.

Pronouns are important. Respect trans* people’s safety. Respect our pronouns.

Addendum:

if you use arbitrary grammar rules created by white men as a reason not to use my pronouns?

nope. sorry.

go fuck yourself.

"[TW: rape, rape culture] What people don’t understand is when we say “Teach men not to rape,” we’re..."

Mon, 25 Mar 2013 01:15:23 -0400

“[TW: rape, rape culture] What people don’t understand is when we say “Teach men not to rape,” we’re not talking about telling them not to jump out of the bushes in a ski mask and grab the nearest female. We’re talking about the way we teach boys that masculinity is measured by power over others, and that they aren’t men unless they “get some.” We’re talking about teaching men (and women) that it’s not okay to laugh at jokes about rape and abuse. We’re talking about telling men that a lack of “No” doesn’t mean “Yes,” that if a woman is too drunk to consent they shouldn’t touch her, that dating someone - or even being married to someone - does not mean automatic consent. We’re talking about teaching boys to pay attention to the girl they’re with, and if she looks uncomfortable to stop and ask if she’s okay, because sometimes girls don’t know how to say stop in a situation like that. We’re talking about how women have the right to change their mind. Even if she’s been saying yes all night, if she says no, that’s it. It’s over. That’s what we mean when we say “Teach men not to rape.””

- Kalitena on Facebook (via waitforhightide)

stfuconservatives: This kickass lady (and Kansas state...

Mon, 25 Mar 2013 01:13:41 -0400

stfuconservatives:

This kickass lady (and Kansas state representative) really said that.

"Images of bisexual women as confused, indecisive, transitional, or closeted lesbians effectively..."

Mon, 25 Mar 2013 01:07:34 -0400

“Images of bisexual women as confused, indecisive, transitional, or closeted lesbians effectively invalidate bisexual identity. Even among lesbians who believe that there are some true bisexuals, these beliefs have the effect of casting doubt on the identities of all women who claim to be bisexual. As long as a lesbian believes that bisexual women are likely to have these characteristics – or at least more likely than lesbians – she will tend to react suspiciously whenever another woman claims to be bisexual. Bisexual identity cannot be accepted at face value, because the woman who claims to be bisexual might not be a true bisexual. Therefore, these images, even if they are not generalized to all bisexual women, function to invalidate bisexual identity generally and, therefore, to invalidate bisexuality.”

- Bisexuality and the Challenge to Lesbian Politics by Paula C. Rust, p. 83 (via ethiopienne)

paraprosdokian: Text: Legal documents in the United States...

Mon, 25 Mar 2013 00:57:40 -0400

paraprosdokian:

Text:

Legal documents in the United States only recognize “male” and “female” as genders, leaving anyone who does not identify as one of these two genders with no option. Australia and New Zealand both allow an X in place of an M or an F on passports for this purpose, and the UK recognizes ‘Mx’ (pronounced “Mix”) as a gender-neutral title.

This petition asks the Obama administration to legally recognize genders outside of the male-female binary, and provide an option for these genders on all legal documents and records.

HEY YO TUMBLR WHAT THE FUCK

It’s halfway through march AND THIS STILL NEEDS 85,000 SIGNATURES

If you guys all take 5 minutes to sign & signal boost this petition, it will be done in no time.

this shit’s important.

This isn't a democracy. It's a queerocracy.

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:03:24 -0400

rule of queers!

alexandraerin: onefitmodel: fithealthy-determined: [TW: fat...

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:00:26 -0400

alexandraerin:

onefitmodel:

fithealthy-determined: [TW: fat shaming]

i understand that people that are very overweight are beautiful but it’s not about people accepting that they are beautiful it’s that it’s plain unhealthy, yes someone just barely overweight can be as healthy as someone whos at a healthy range but your body wasnt made to carry around excessive weight…im not badhing overweight people but they need to understand its about health and life worth

You can be fat and healthy, actually.

Here

are

a

ton

of

links

and

studies

and

people

to

prove

it.

But the most important part is: Not your body? Not your business. Shame doesn’t help anyone. Stigma doesn’t help anyone. Vague future health threats don’t help anyone.

But if the only places that you hear that fat is always unhealthy are from mass media, which helps the diet industry make $40 BILLION (or more) profit per year, or from the medical community which is more interested in making money off prescribing pills and bariatric surgery, you might want to consider that you’ve been fooled. Also keep in mind that the government and medical community immediately throws out/stops funding any studies that prove that fat is not unhealthy.

(o.p)

I was going to reblog this picture before I saw the commentary. Reblogging for both!

yay for the pic and yay for the commentary! i woulda just told fithealthy-determined to skull-fuck themselves with a fork, so i’m extra impressed with the super eloquent commentary. <3 fat love!

the-absolute-funniest-posts: My lovely followers, please follow...

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:56:20 -0400

the-absolute-funniest-posts:

My lovely followers, please follow this blog immediately!

bidyke: [Image: photo of Samuel L. Jackson from the movie Pulp...

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:55:40 -0400

bidyke:

[Image: photo of Samuel L. Jackson from the movie Pulp Fiction, aiming a gun towards the screen. Upper text: “SAY BISEXUALITY IS BINARY”. Lower text: “ONE MORE TIME”.]

New meme. Because I have SRSLY had it X_x

* For further reading:
Words, binary and biphobia, or: why “bi” is binary but “FTM” is not

When cis women pit trans women against trans men for access to spaces they control.

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:45:01 -0400

genderbitch:

inchoaterica:

noahkins:

…and trans men go along with it and shove trans women out of women’s space. Being complicit in oppression is still oppression, and IDGAF what your excuse is.

No, we will not “come back later when things have changed.” I spent a decade and change forced to be stealth to be a queer girl and now i’m basically not a queer girl anymore not because cis women don’t want trans women around but because trans men are so fucking threatened by our presence they fall on themselves to shove us under the bus.

No, y’all need to stop saying “this is the space i grew up in so i have more of a right than you.” a)bullshit, you’re still a MAN invading WOMEN’s space and b)um hi i grew up here too. I just had to bite my tongue and be Erica the Horrible Secret.

Yes, cis women enforcing patriarchal bullshit is the problem here. But when trans guys go along with it, especially when they start taking leadership positions (why is so much in my town that used to be the “queer women’s community now run by white men?), trans guys are being just as bad. The fact that you have a hard choice doesn’t mean to oppress someone else down the line.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

reblogging for the deadly commentary.

Dysphoria/Dissonance vs. Internalized Cissexism? Or Maybe It's Not So Simple, Jackass

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:42:55 -0400

genderbitch:

The trans community is awash with narrative pushing.

White supremacy pushing the stereotypical white transgender experience as the norm. Classism pushing the transitioning = paying out the ass for medical adjustments narrative. Ableism pushing the “trans doesn’t equal crazy and god forbid you are crazy cuz here is a bus enjoy the wheels” bullshit. Fatphobia pushing the androgyny or femininity or masculinity or every other expression = thin crap. Etcetera.

When it comes to taking the experiences of a tiny privileged few or a giant pile of transfundamentalist bullshit and superimposing it on every form of gender variance under and over the sun, the trans community has a disturbing amount of talent.

And have no doubt, the blame rests in the end on all of those isms mentioned above and also cissexism cuz cis people taught us how to fuck ourselves over well by doing it to us always. But it’s still happening.

And no more heavily than with this latest crap I’ve seen all over tumblr (although it’s certainly been around way longer) on dysphoria and dissonance.

Dysphoria and Dissonance being defined purely and completely as “hating your body” because of its format, a format that is not cis (in many cases because it isn’t cis, because of a mismatch).

It’s not an invalid narrative. There are tons of trans people who absolutely have that exact form of dissonance. Who require methods to cope with their body not matching their mind or even surgical and hormonal intervention. Valid and not to be shat on.

The problem shows up when that narrative, the body structures being wrong for one’s self concept (often paired with the idea that this is a biological or neurological issue), is applied as the end all be all litmus test for transness.

Here’s a strong kick to the face reality check. Dissonance and Dysphoria actually come in tons and tons of forms. And for tons and tons of reasons.

For instance, there is social dysphoria. There are people who hurt more from dissonance between social elements and their self concept. Gasp. I know. Shocking.

If you need to faint, I brought a victorian couch for you to fall on.

Furthermore, even within that narrative there are people who don’t need a whit of actual surgery or even hormones. And who didn’t get that dissonance from neurological things (and there’s also the ridiculous heavy problems with the brain sex idea, that fucks around with Intersex folks’ territory hard).

This narrative being pushed isn’t doing any of us any favors. It’s not just leading to policing, it’s leading to a very brutal in for internalized cissexism and cisfuckery to attack our body images even harder than normal.

I cannot express how hard I’ve been struggling lately with whether my self directed penis hate is dissonance (and believe me I do have bodily dissonance, much of which was solved by what the hormones did, but my transness is way more complex than that) or if it’s internalized cissexism, this idea that a woman can’t have a penis.

And what if it’s something else? What if its a mixture? What if this narrative being pushed convinced me I have to hate my penis to be trans and so I subconsciously did the damage to myself?

This narrative doesn’t just lead to policing, denial of resources and fucking over other trans folks (and guaranteed fucking over of genderesscent folks due to all the racism my people bring to gender in general) it leads to doing serious damage to self concept and self actualization all throughout gender variant and gender existent non cis individuals all over.

It leads to doubts that disrupt the way we figure out what we need and take the steps to get it. It muddies the waters that needed no further damn muddying with a cissexist (not to mention all the other axes that come into play) world fucking with our minds at every step.

It leads to self hatred. It leads to bad decisions that make things worse. It leads to people not believing they’re trans or genderesscent or gender existent (as the case may be) at all and suffering without even knowing why. It leads to people who have accepted their gender existent status but don’t fit the narrative hiding from the community and not gaining access to resources and support or being open and being denied those resources directly.

It leads to deaths.

It leads to suicides.

This shit kills people. Our people.

The worst part, all it would take is comprehending nuance. Learning that things are complicated and can’t be summed up in a single narrative. Unlearning fucked up bigoted bullshit that fuels this pushing. Not hard things. Not too much to ask at all when people’s lives and well being are at stake.

Not too much at all.

truth!

lavendertransgressions: fuckyeahanarchistbanners: marxvx: Anar...

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:40:54 -0400

lavendertransgressions:

fuckyeahanarchistbanners:

marxvx:

Anarcho-Queer Bloc #2

Smash Straight Capitalism - Build Queer Community

can I get an amen?

AMEN!

"So if you – the oppressed – hurt someone’s feelings, you’re just like the oppressor, right? Wrong...."

Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:38:42 -0400

“So if you – the oppressed – hurt someone’s feelings, you’re just like the oppressor, right? Wrong. Oppression is not about hurt feelings. It is about the rights and opportunities that are not afforded to you because you belong to a certain group of people. When you use a racist slur you imply that non-whiteness is a bad thing, and thus publicly reinforce a system that denies POC the rights and opportunities of white people. Calling a white person a racist fuckhead doesn’t do any of that. Yes, it’s not very nice. And how effective it is as a tactic is definitely up for debate (that’s a whole other blog post). But it’s not oppression.”

- » The Revolution Will Not Be Polite: The Issue of Nice versus Good Social Justice League (via anarcho-queer)